Weird experience with Tinder date
 

Hi bros!

Met a married girl on Tinder and she was all over me on the first date.In her first date she mentioned her ex wants to keep it as open relationship. 2nd and 3rd date was in hotel and because she said I passed all 3 tests including the tool testing!🤣 Then her behaviour started to change and started saying she's busy, then asked to meet for a coffee then said she had a dream and her mother came in her dreams and told her she should not do it. We planning to do a daycation and send a message she having menses so should only meet for lunch and movie. After movie, she said she wants to take religion classes and essentially ended.
All the while planning a trip to go trekking trip in December, even when meet for coffee and movie.

First I ended it gracefully then sent her a long message saying it was a lame excuse and she just was trying to get over her ex by sleeping with me. Even when she had no intentions to continue why make fool by planning trip in December.

Question to bros here - what do you think she was looking for? If you are in my position would you just finish it gracefully or take any kind of revenge?

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Married girl but still need to get over ex.

The husband she married not good enough to get her over her ex? Then why marry him in the first place?

She's a cheater, and has no guts to admit it as such. What revenge can you take? Nothing. Just take the L and move on. It's not the most BS way a guy can get cold-feeted by a girl sexually anyway.

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Don’t bother finding out the reason some SG girls are super weird n self absorbed. One minute they are passionate as fuck the next they treat u like complete stranger. As long you had fun without any repercussions that’s all that matters. I also met my fair share of weird local women on dating apps.

Few years ago, met a pretty solid n tall divorced milf. Went out with her a couple of times n the signal I get from her is pretty intense. By third meet she was giving me a solid BJ but unfortunately no sex. After meeting her one last time where we hanky panky at MSCP the next day she texted me to tell me we are not suitable.

Another one before CB in 2020, met a girl who is more than 10 years younger and I guess there was chemistry after that meet. Subsequently we met for dinner n movies but always hanky panky before we end the date. Then one night I manage to get her to come my office late night and we had sex there. Super awesome! After that I suggested we go staycation which she agreed, she even booked the hotel. Then came CB n our plans got dashed. Strange thing is I never heard from her again, she just ghosted me. Till today I got no idea what happened.

Anyway that’s how online dating is like.

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Bro, one question for you. Did you go all gooey romantic on her at any point? :) That’s a major turn off for most women, especially when the relationship is new. I learnt it the hard way when I was still dating.

Good that you ended things and called her out. One change that I would have done is not send that looong message afterwards.

I know you must be hurting right now. It sucks play nice and get punished for it. You’ll be fine. Go find a new one!

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And no revenge talk please. That’s just you being mad about the situation. Practically, difficult/dangerous to pull off, may hurt her disproportionately and leave you feeling no better.

Thank you bro. Seems Theis is a common problem with Singaporean girls. Weird

Thanks bro. I waited for few weeks trying to be nice as if nothing happened. Finally could not control myself and sent her this message literally saying she's fucked up . I guess need to move on.

Bro, apparently out and about for last 10yrs having relationship with men at Work since husband rejected her.

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Just to share my experience - I've had countless of these encounters with gals I met on dating apps. One moment they can be passionate & enthusiastic making u feel like u have found your soul mate, next moment they can be cold and MIA/ghost you like nothing ever happened between u guys.

One thing I learn is those women who are open to "open relationships" on dating apps are generally broken, messed-up females with a narscisstic & weird personality. Their behaviour is sometimes without logic or reasoning one.

If u gona keep brooding over it, it will drain you emotionally and physically. I've been through that & knows how mess up it feels.

There's nothing wrong with finding these women for fun. Just remember to never get attached to anyone of them. Have your fun and move on.

I realized that if you want a stable source of intimacy from women, there are only 2 choices - 1 find a gf/wife and 2 book a FL/ML

Those flings/FWBs u find on dating apps are exciting & good fun, but very very unreliable and erratic due to the personality of these gals

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+1

Had numerous such encounters too. Met a tall big boobs OL in her 30s from dating app. First date we hit off damm well. Told me I am one of the rare "normal guy" she has met. The rest of all the guys she met are either creepy or boring nerdy type. 2nd date we aldy making out in my car. Gave me a great BBBJ while I fingered her deeply as she was wearing a short office skirt.
That night after I send her home, she still texted me & we continued chatting. Even made plans to meet again. 2 weeks later I msg and realized she has blocked me. No reasons, no fights at all...

After reading the stories shared by my own frens and also other users on SBF, I realized I am not the only who has such encounters.

In general, there are some gals on dating apps who are really messed up, erratic and simply unpredictable/illogical.

One moment they will like u and treat u like a king, next moment they can discard u like a junk.

So my game plan now has changed - no point trying to establish anything long-term with these sluts. Build a good chemistry from the start, have as much fun as she allows, but be prepared to drop her and move on in a few weeks/months time.

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She just missed her IMH appt :)

Wow bro! This resonates so well and thank you for the insight. 🙏

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Not bad liao.

I "liked" so many girls but no response....LOL

Bro, what's your intro?

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But please use protection u don’t know how many guys these bitches screwed before u. She can be easy with u she can be easy with other guys. And make sure the whole time she consent the make out with u. Don’t end up like that Grab driver who got accused and charged in court for rape but now acquitted.